Assume < Ask

First things first, I would like to clarify things out. What that I will write and post will be my only oppinion and it do not related with anyone or anything. 

So, here the thing is. I realised something a few weeks ago, when I went for a walk and I met my teacher. He apperently asked me about my ‘boyfriend’ and I also asked him the question “Who is my boyfriend?” And he said, dont lie, I knew about that. Honestly, at that time, it quite awkward for me because, I just realise that, even I dont really minding other people life, yet people keep on making a story about my life. And the funniest part is, when I clarify that I do not have a boyfriend, he didnt believed me. This is when the rumors become the truths and the truths become rumors. 

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I dont want to talk about the news of my ‘boyfriend’. I want to talk about, people nowadays really like to assume than to ask. Like from my oppinion, I think the proper way and the most easier way for you to get the comformation about some news is to directly asked that person. Rather than assume on something that uncertain. It is wayy more better for you to ask them. Don’t just assume because it would lead to misunderstanding and other problems could occur. 

If you are too shy to ask, you can used the mediator. For example like asks that person’s family members or you asked their closed friends. Someone that you know will give the right answer for your questions. Simple right ? 

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I know that I used to be this ‘kepochi’ girl when I was young, but not anymore. It was so exhausted, you know. The older I became, the more I realised that there are so much more things that I need to think about rather than minding other people’s story. I just dont want to know anymore on other people life except for those who dear to me. Like my family members and my closed friends. More than than, I prayed may Allah take care of them because I know, He is Al’Alim, The All Knowing. I just leave it to Him. 

And honestly, I would never mind on what would people think about me anymore. If they thought me as the bad person, then that is me in their story. The bad girl. Because you know, some says that, we could be villain in someone story,ey ? And it is not my job to correct that character because I don’t have power to change that. People only want to hear what they want to. And they would never care the aftereffect of what might happened because it is not about their life. So yeah, just think what you want to think about me. You are free to. And I never mind that. Really.

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Maybe I overthink too much. Maybe it is my phase of overthinking. And maybe this is just my thought. Idk. But, is feels good to bring what is floating in my mind , jot down here. As I said at the first starts, this all just my oppinions and it didnt related with anyone or anything. Just, my two cent. 

So yeah, fin. Salam and my Allah bless you.